As the new school year approaches, many parents are focused on shopping lists, class schedules, and adjusting sleep routines. But there’s another essential back-to-school conversation that often gets overlooked—talking to your child about their period. Whether your child has already started menstruating or is showing early signs like discharge before their period, this is a powerful time to build trust, boost confidence, and empower them with knowledge.
Periods are a natural part of growing up, but for many, they’re wrapped in embarrassment, confusion, or even fear. Your open, calm, and informed approach can transform the way they experience their cycle—turning what could be a source of anxiety into an opportunity for growth and self-awareness.
Here’s how to initiate and navigate that conversation in a way that feels supportive, empowering, and perfectly timed for the school year ahead.
1. Start the Conversation Before the First Period
One of the biggest mistakes parents make is waiting until their child already has their period to start the conversation. By then, the experience might already feel overwhelming or even traumatic.
Instead, look for signs that your child's body is changing. Many girls experience discharge before their period, which can begin up to a year in advance. Vaginal discharge is usually clear or white and is a normal sign that hormones are active and the body is preparing to menstruate. Use this as a natural entry point to talk about what’s coming.
Say something like:
“Hey, I know your body is changing and you might notice some new things happening—like discharge in your underwear. That’s totally normal and it usually means your first period could be coming in the next year. Let’s talk about what to expect so you feel prepared.”
2. Use a Period Calculator to Make It Predictable
If your child has already had their first period—or even if they haven’t—you can introduce them to a period calculator. These tools are great for estimating when their next period might start and helping them track their cycle over time.
Using a period calculator not only helps them feel more in control, but it also teaches them how to plan ahead. This is especially important for school days, field trips, sports practice, and overnight stays with friends.
You can find period calculators online or use one within a menstrual tracking app. Encourage your child to make it a habit to track symptoms and dates. Not only does this create confidence, but it can also help identify irregularities early on.
3. Make Pads and Teen Pads a Normal Part of the Conversation
One of the most practical parts of this talk is showing them how to use menstrual products. Many start with pads, especially teen pads that are designed for smaller bodies and lighter flows. These are often more comfortable and less intimidating than tampons or menstrual cups.
Take the time to show them:
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How to properly place a pad in underwear
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How often to change it (every 3–4 hours to prevent leaks or odor)
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How to dispose of it discreetly
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How to pack extras in their backpack or locker
You might even create a “Period Kit” together that they can keep in their backpack: a small pouch with extra teen pads, a change of underwear, and some wipes. That way, if their period comes unexpectedly at school, they’re ready.
4. Address the Emotional Side of Periods
While the physical side of menstruation is important, don’t forget the emotional rollercoaster that can come with it. Hormonal changes during puberty can cause mood swings, irritability, anxiety, and fatigue.
Let your child know that these emotional changes are valid and normal. They’re not “being dramatic” or “too sensitive”—they’re going through a real biological shift.
This is a chance to open the door to emotional literacy and self-care. Teach them to:
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Acknowledge their feelings
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Use journaling or breathing exercises to manage stress
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Rest when needed without guilt
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Practice kindness toward themselves during tough days
Being seen and heard during this time can build a deeper parent-teen bond that extends well beyond menstruation.
5. Debunk Period Myths Before School Peers Do
Let’s face it—if your child doesn’t hear the truth from you, they’ll hear myths from their friends, TikTok, or outdated health classes. Some common myths include:
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Period blood is dirty
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You can’t get pregnant on your period
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Pads are only for beginners
Correcting these myths with science-backed facts gives your teen power and clarity.
For example: “Actually, period blood isn’t dirty—it’s just your body shedding the uterine lining".
Knowledge is power. Equip them with it.
6. Normalize the Conversation in Your Home
Your home should be a safe space for period talk. This means:
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Not whispering about pads or hiding them in bags
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Encouraging your child to ask questions at any time
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Including siblings or dad in the conversation (when appropriate) to reduce shame
You can also be open about your own experiences. Share what you wish you’d known at their age or talk about your own cycle to show it’s just a part of life.
“I remember when I was your age, no one talked to me about periods. I want things to be different for you.”
That honesty can go a long way in making your child feel safe, seen, and supported.
7. Address the Social Challenges Head-On
Teens worry about leaking, smelling, or being teased if someone finds out they’re on their period. These fears are real and valid. Instead of brushing them off, walk through what they can do to manage them:
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Wear darker pants or bring a sweater to tie around the waist just in case
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Use pads with odor control (many teen pads include this feature)
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Keep extra supplies in a locker or nurse’s office
Also, teach them what to say if someone makes an inappropriate comment:
“Periods are normal. Grow up.”
Confidence is a skill—and you can help them build it.
8. Talk About What’s Normal and When to Ask for Help
Teens may not know what's considered a “normal” period and might ignore signs of a problem. Teach them what to look out for:
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Soaking through a pad every 1–2 hours (could signal heavy bleeding)
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Missing school due to painful cramps
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Periods that last more than 7 days
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Periods that stop for months after starting
If any of these symptoms show up, it’s time to talk to a healthcare provider. Don’t wait. Early diagnosis of conditions like PCOS or hormonal imbalances can make a world of difference in your teen’s life.
9. Celebrate the Milestone—Don’t Dread It
Getting a period isn’t just a biological event—it’s a rite of passage. Mark the occasion in a way that feels empowering. This might look like:
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Taking your child out for a smoothie or lunch
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Buying them a special pouch for their period supplies
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Giving them a journal or book about growing up
This isn’t about throwing a party (unless they want one!)—it’s about honoring the moment as an important step in their journey to adulthood.
10. Keep the Conversation Going All Year Long
One conversation isn’t enough. Puberty doesn’t come with a deadline—and your child will continue to have questions and experiences long after the first period arrives.
Check in regularly:
“How are your periods going?”
“Do you need more pads or anything for your school kit?”
“Have you been tracking your cycle with the calculator?”
Keeping the door open ensures they always know where to go for help, reassurance, or supplies.
Final Thoughts: Backpacks, Breakthroughs, and Bold Conversations
Talking to your child about periods before school starts isn’t just about preparation—it’s about protection, empowerment, and connection. By discussing everything from discharge before their period to choosing the right teen pads, you’re giving them the tools to walk into this new school year feeling confident and cared for.
Use a period calculator to make cycles more predictable. Create a safe space to talk about pads, emotions, and myths. And most of all, show your child that menstruation isn’t something to hide—it’s something to honor.
Let this back-to-school season be about more than just backpacks. Let it be a breakthrough moment—where your child learns not just about periods, but about the power of knowledge, support, and self-love.